FoF: Sign of the Times

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There are two kinds of people in this sentence: those who want to flee the constant barrage of internet opinion, and those who choose to engage in it (either by cooling off the rhetoric or fanning the flames).

While we could sing the praises of technological connectivity all day (and we do), the trouble with online groupthink is that it gets away from us. It has become far too easy to grab our virtual lanterns and keyword pitchforks to develop an instant status quo, to be defended fortnightly—or at least for a few tweets, and in the process belittle all that don’t conform to it.

Meanwhile, what we’re losing, or at least forgetting, are the real people behind the cyberfray, several keystrokes deep.

Take the first story in the news section below. Society has allowed a system to be built around us on ideals that don’t actually exist, and frankly, probably shouldn’t, all because they gave the illusion of safety, slow and steady. We were naive and lazy, ignorant or complicit in the projection of collective fineness, when in fact it was nothing more than ducks gliding on water, kicking storms beneath. We were told to believe everything we read, and any deviation thereof resulted in the aforementioned pointy end of a pitchfork. This isn’t only about the sexual abuse outlined in the story, and endless, countless others, but our ability for honest discourse, the conversations of a country and the trust that we once took for granted.

Our human connection was broken long before the alarm sounded, and those who called it as such were promptly blamed for it, the smelt it/dealt it of American peer pressure. For some, this is the ringing of retreat, but for others, it is for the standing with each other, mending what is broken and dealing with that which is gone for good. It is about connecting, and asking each other, “How are you? How can I help?”

The signs are there for the looking.

IN THE NEWS

Rather than revere the false image of “America’s Dad,” we should “reexamine the cultural legacies of these apparently unbiased journalistic voices and try to understand the role they held in shaping how we view the world.”

“I think our job as parents, as fathers, is being honest, constantly honest.” – Neil Patrick Harris

A large percentage of younger kids have social media accounts, despite 13 being the minimum required age. Parents, what do you think?

Once you’ve been a SAHD, has guilt ever prevented you from going back to work?

You have to educate your children on the world as it exists today and how it got to that space, but my child doesn’t need the same tools that I needed growing up.” – Jay-Z

Employers are discriminating against fathers at work by refusing requests for flexible hours, forcing mothers to do more childcare. Which helps nobody.

Seeing Santa can be overwhelming, especially for kids with sensory challenges. That’s why Kerry Magro provides “sensory friendly” Santa visits for children.

We’ve known for decades that sugar doesn’t cause hyperactivity in kids, so why do parents keep blaming it for their children’s behavior?

“Difficulties allow children to practice empathy, resilience and problem-solving. Intervention can have deleterious effects on a child’s growth.” – Braden Bell

PORCHLIGHT POSTS

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