In 1983, Billy Joel was on top of the world, or at least the part of it covered in charts. It would have been easy to leave old stereotypes alone, but instead a generation of young people found themselves singing along, whimsically so, with “Keeping the Faith,” with lyrics that would lay the groundwork on masculinity for future generations.
Take our friend Mike Reynolds—still fresh from speaking on the #MeToo panel at Dad 2.0 in New Orleans—who is pictured above doing what he does best: posing for photos for HuffPo. Also, dropping keen insight like this:
Imagine getting to a place where men don’t evaluate an activity based on how much strength it requires but on how much happiness it brings to one’s mind instead? To understand that being victorious, either physically or intellectually, isn’t what makes a person a role model.
Imagine if we better understood that what has come to be known as feminine can bring us immense joy. That femininity isn’t inferior. And it’s something men should enjoy.
The point being, there is no longer an accepted definition of masculinity (stoic and terrible as it was), and there shouldn’t be. There is no reason at all that men can’t cross-stitch and be a Blue Jays fan. Or neither. And while Mike is leading by both platform and example, he isn’t the only one.
And it isn’t just the online parenting community. Joshua Johnson, host of NPR’s 1A podcast, and his guests dedicated a recent episode to the negative, sometimes tragic, consequences that may result from traditional, outdated patterns in masculinity.
So you can dance if you want to. Or not. You can look tough. Or not. You can cross-stitch and/or play rugby and/or hug dolls and/or own guns responsibly.
The point is, a man ain’t just being macho. and we are all better for it.
IN THE NEWS
With the support of Stephen Fry (newly diagnosed with prostate cancer), four dads will row 3,000 miles across the Atlantic to raise funds for the Urology Foundation and the Little Harbour Children’s Hospice.
It’s official: Canada’s upcoming federal budget will include a five-week, use-it-or-lose-it incentive for new dads to take parental leave and share the responsibilities of raising their young child.
As a kid, Russell Wilson would promise his dad (who died in 2010) that one day he’d play for the Yankees. And when he first put on his uniform, he thought about how proud his dad would have been.
Uncle, Duke, and The Chief are nicknames of the Born Ruffians’ dads, who are their “biggest fans” (but we’re right behind them).
Why was the Internet was shocked to learn that Black Panther star Michael B. Jordan lives at home with his parents?
“Raising kids to be global citizens, teaching them values like empathy and then showing them how to put those values to work, is one of the modern-day parent’s new responsibilities.”
Paid family leave is gaining bipartisan support, but it’s not yet bipartisan enough.
When the goal is “to raise self-aware and helpful children” (and when isn’t it?), our words and actions matter.
Don’t believe the “terrible twos” hype. You can’t sleep on three tho.
- One of our favorite things about the Dad 2.0 Summit is watching the relationships grow out of it, such as Casey Palmer‘s post about “Beleaf in Fatherhood and the Case for Positive Black Representation.”
- “Who’s Teaching Who? The Failed Attempt At Disciplining Our Two Year Old” is the story over at Ingus‘ place.
- Nic Casey wonders whatever happened to kids in America having “Presidential Dreams“?
- In light of recent events, Andrew Knott addresses “The Vanishing Illusion of Safety in Wake of Yet Another School Shooting.”
- The Force is strong in Aaron Yavelberg‘s tender talk with his kid about guns: “Shooting From the Hip.”
We’ll just let this play us out . . .
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Photo: Mike Reynolds