If you’re hanging around Franklin, Massachusetts, today, you might see more people than usual walking around with painted fingernails. This is just the latest development in the worldwide whirlwind of attention that has descended on five-year-old Sam Gouveia.
Sam likes to paint his nails because “it looks pretty,” and because it’s a special thing he does with his grandmother, a former manicurist. When he got teased at school, his dad took to social media to vent his frustration—not with the school officials or staff, whom he adores—but the real life hashtag of #toxicmasculinity and the seeds it has sown in schoolyards across America.
As was the case last weeks (after some puffy twit made fun of Daniel Craig for wearing his infant in a carrier), the real story is in the overwhelmingly positive response. Traditional, online, and social media outlets have all put their polish on the tale, making headlines in China, Australia, Britain and Canada. The saga of Sam has hit major newspapers, magazines, morning programs, websites, and pop culture juggernauts.
The coverage is exceptional because the story is relatable. Many of us have been in similar situations, fighting our own good fights, and that only adds to the appeal of standing against stereotypes and tired tropes. We have seen the story of Sam in our own kids, maybe even ourselves, and we know the pangs of a dad’s frustration. This is the stuff viral was meant for.
Sam really appreciates it.
Today has been overwhelming. Sam wants to personally thank each and every one of you who reached out to support him. It meant the world to all of us. pic.twitter.com/xuEBXsOIst
— Daddy Files (@DaddyFiles) October 23, 2018
IN THE NEWS
A new study suggests that when dads exercise even a few weeks before conceiving a child, it could have long-term health effects on your child, including obesity and diabetes prevention.
Did you live with your spouse before you got married? Is your marriage stronger or weaker for it? Researchers still can’t tell if the two are related (possibly because of how people view premarital sex).
There is a big difference between romantic relationships before kids and after.
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— Dad 2.0 Summit (@dad2summit) October 22, 2018
“Parents should have confidence in the foundation they laid when their kids were younger.”
“I was hurting. Bad. I’ve never wrestled with depression or powerful negative emotions before. I figured I’d been blessed with enormous fortitude; turns out, I’d just been lucky.”
“Experts say the more boys are encouraged to learn how to talk with emotional authenticity, respectfully, the healthier they are and the less likely they are to grow into the kind of men who leave destruction in their wake.”
— Dad 2.0 Summit (@dad2summit) October 25, 2018
Want to make the world better? Try introducing it to your kids.
Sometimes, as this dad found out, bullying is a thinly veiled cry for help.
Who needs toys when you have a kitchen (or bathroom, pantry, garage, etc.)?
"I'm the greatest fort builder ever. That's what my daughter says. I'm really good, and I pride myself on it. My fort game is serious. I've mastered that shit.” – @KidCudi #fatherhood #parenting #mentalhealth https://t.co/BylAHVjw6d
— Dad 2.0 Summit (@dad2summit) October 24, 2018
- “You had better believe I would choose to err on the side of integrity, sportsmanship, and character when it comes to my kids.” – Carter Gaddis, Integrity, Sportsmanship, and Character & the Baseball Hall of Fame
- “As a parent, you know best. And if, in the end, you take your child to the doctor and it’s nothing, then all you’ve done is assured yourself they’re OK—and there’s nothing wrong with that.” – Dashing Dad, Raising a Child with a Peanut Allergy
- “We haven’t had batting practice in the backyard for a couple of years now. I’d have liked to have known that they were the last. I’d have savored them more, remembered them better.” – Bill Peebles, Backyard Baseball Field Fading Fast, Memories Staying Strong
- “There’s a freneticism to addition that is exhausting, but such is the power it has over you that you dare not stop. If you rest for even a second, your mind may replay all of the awfulness you’ve inflicted on others.” – Doug Zeigler, An Unexpected Revisiting
- “I believe this will benefit us all in the long run. Think Mr. Rogers Meets Dr. Seuss meets Black Thought with Timbaland on Production.” – Glen Henry, Creating Content for Black/Minority Kids on YouTube
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Top photo courtesy of Aaron Gouveia