This week’s column is inspired by Dad 2.019 Speaker Shannon Carpenter, whose Porchlight Post “Flexing Through Fatherhood” (see below) confronts that queasy feeling when your family looks to you for the answers you don’t have. Like when something in the basement lets loose a guttural, rumbling belch during dinner, and every set of eyes at the table gravitates toward you.
When it comes to parenting, the idea of winging it often gets coated in shade, generally from other parents (who, we all know, are also winging it). But the simple truth is that parenting is improv–except we don’t always say yes, tempting as the path of least resistance may be. We make our decisions with the tools and context we are given, we hope for the best, and we hope to learn when the best doesn’t happen.
In his piece, Shannon posits “Do we really become competent parents? Or do we at least learn to fake that confidence and lend it out to those little people that haven’t learned the skill yet?” We imagine it’s a little of both. The important part is to keep swinging out over the falls no matter how loose your grip is.
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IN THE NEWS
Are you parenting a procrastinator?
Parents, does your life/schedule feel overwhelming and full of chaos?
Dads have been through it, too.
“Losing a parent is gut-ripping, regardless of the state of the relationship.”
“Who I am right now is probably what my kid is going to be in about 20 years. So if I’m not OK with who I am now, I need to take some steps.”
“Fathers are sometimes more motivated to make changes for the well-being of their children and families, rather than themselves.”
New studies suggest that dads are happier than moms when it comes to parenting.
Adventure is out there! Wear a helmet.
What do you think, dads? Are we knocking fewer boots?
- “I breached the subject of flu vaccines with my kids in dramatic fashion. I waxed poetic with science, delighted them with visual role play.” – Vincent Daly; The Flu season and Avengers: Endgame
- “Eyes still closed. Slow but steady lowering to the blankets and suddenly it is complete. Quiet happy child in their own bed.” – Joe Saladino; Nostrils
- “I have this belief that I will just magically walk into a beautiful photograph. Which I might, you never know.” – Brandon Billinger; Problems New Dads Have As The Family Photographer
- “Maybe my wife and kids are right. Maybe what they see in me is more than what I see in myself. Is that what fatherhood does to you?” – Shannon Carpenter; Flexing Through Fatherhood
- “Cleverness is its shield and also its sword.” – Doug Zeigler; Conspirator
‘GRAM OF THE WEEK
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